Why Mediation?

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Mediation Ends Ambiguity

Last fall, over three successive months, four friends (who happen to be attorneys) encouraged me to look into Rule 31 Mediation education. Mediation Works A lifetime learner, I began my research with Google, which listed T.S. Oliver’s article, “Understanding Tennessee Rule 31” which begins: We are lucky to live in Tennessee, where the State Supreme Court provides guidance for Alternative … Read More

What Is Living On Purpose?

Shelley BaurCommunicating, Goals, Integrity, Life Balance, Living on Purpose

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Living on Purpose is an intentional choice to move toward achieving goals, based on your personal life mission and purpose, in alignment with your values and daily activities. Recently, I facilitated a half-day of honest introspection, where learners’ discovery was deepened with fresh definitions of communicating honestly, clarifying values, and learning how to live a balanced life. How? First, we … Read More

Greatest Joys, Fears in Relationship

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Integrity, Living on Purpose, Values

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Psychologists say that human are driven by two motivators: gaining pleasure and avoiding pain.  In my last article, we looked at identifying what you value most in a particular relationship – the things that we most want to be present in the relationship. Understanding Greatest Fears It’s just as informative to flip the coin and ask, “What do I most … Read More

What Do You Value Most?

Shelley BaurCommunicating, Integrity, Living on Purpose, Values

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Have you ever been asked, “What do you value most?”  Have you re-visited that question lately? Recently I was privileged to work with a small group of talented business owners who wanted a sample of my two-day seminar, Living on Purpose.  “What do you value most?” resonated deeply with each of them.  Watch the facilitated session here: Values Clarification Video … Read More

BNI and Integrity-Based Communications

Shelley BaurBNI: Business Network International, Business, Communicating, Goals, Integrity, Sales, Success, Values

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How can you squeeze your business, life and leadership philosophy into a 10-minutes presentation?  In a phrase: regular practice and feedback. Every business day, BNI: Business Network International challenges members throughout the world to state succinctly who they are, what markets they serve, what problems they solve, and how to best refer business to them. Recently, I compressed my life, … Read More

Are You Sending Mixed Messages?

Shelley BaurCommunicating, Communication, Mixed Messages, Relationships

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Refusing to participate in sending “mixed messages” requires breaking the habit of “going along to get along.” On the subject of mixed messages, Mohandas Gandhi’s famous quote is: “A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” Choosing Honesty Over Mixed Messages My Mom was the unofficial social … Read More

Know How To Take Risks In Communicating?

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Integrity, Taking Risks

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Having talked about the theory, method and behaviors of Integrity-Based Communications in a recent post, let’s apply the model specifically to various applications that require negotiating. As it relates to behavior I want others to demonstrate, first I must be willing to demonstrate that behavior personally. Including how to take risks, personally. How to Take Risks in Communicating For instance, … Read More