When a Conversation Gets Complicated

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As the holidays approach and families gather together, you may get caught up in a conversation that gets complicated, or takes a direction that creates discomfort. Maybe it stems from a long-standing difference of opinion that has no clear resolution. Maybe it’s a health issue that provokes fear. Or maybe it’s a yearning to mend fences, and re-connect in healthy … Read More

Why Mediation?

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Mediation Ends Ambiguity

Last fall, over three successive months, four friends (who happen to be attorneys) encouraged me to look into Rule 31 Mediation education. Mediation Works A lifetime learner, I began my research with Google, which listed T.S. Oliver’s article, “Understanding Tennessee Rule 31” which begins: We are lucky to live in Tennessee, where the State Supreme Court provides guidance for Alternative … Read More

Leadership Vision Compels Action

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Integrity-Based Communications, grounded in vision

I would give all the wealth of the world, and all the deeds of all the heroes, for one true vision. That was the response Brad Federman gave me when I asked for his favorite leadership vision quote, attributed to Henry David Thoreau. One True Vision In a recent conversation about his business, F&H Solutions Group, I asked, “What is … Read More

Share Stories to Get Hired

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Interview with Integrity-Based Communications

My last article focused on my brilliant young protégée, an aspiring accountant, who whose goal was to get hired as a summer intern. It was a great experience. She aced the interview, landed the internship, and ultimately a job with the firm. Have you ever experienced starting off meeting people well enough, then having your job hopes dashed during the … Read More

How Do You Get Hired These Days?

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To get hired, first do your homework. Specifically, read and study Paul C. Green’s book, Get Hired. Credited with inventing the term “behavioral interviewing,” Dr. Green’s experience qualifies him to be a virtual personal job coach, and a valuable resource for anyone in transition. Nor surprisingly, the fear faced by job-seekers today is wondering if they will actually get hired. … Read More

Take Time to Gladden Someone’s Heart

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Integrity-Based Communications is Heart

This past weekend, I was reminded of the gift to “gladden a heart.” Someone you know has a joy they want to celebrate. Another person you know has a heavy burden they are keeping secret, fearing discovery. They could be a family member, or a stranger in the checkout line. How Do You Gladden A Heart? Your smile, acknowledgment, and … Read More

Pick Up The Phone…Just Because!

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What better time to pick up the phone and say you care, than on Valentine’s Day? If it matters that science says so, please read on. Dr. Cary Nelson sent this to me, and I found it worthy of posting because of his carefully constructed, scientific analysis of why personal, heart-to-heart communication is radically beneficial. Today, I want to ask … Read More