When a Conversation Gets Complicated

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communication, Family, Kindness, Mixed Messages, RelationshipsLeave a Comment

As the holidays approach and families gather together, you may get caught up in a conversation that gets complicated, or takes a direction that creates discomfort. Maybe it stems from a long-standing difference of opinion that has no clear resolution. Maybe it’s a health issue that provokes fear. Or maybe it’s a yearning to mend fences, and re-connect in healthy … Read More

Pick Up The Phone…Just Because!

Shelley BaurCommunicating, RelationshipsLeave a Comment

What better time to pick up the phone and say you care, than on Valentine’s Day? If it matters that science says so, please read on. Dr. Cary Nelson sent this to me, and I found it worthy of posting because of his carefully constructed, scientific analysis of why personal, heart-to-heart communication is radically beneficial. Today, I want to ask … Read More

Kindness Is Always in Season

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Integrity, Kindness, Relationships, Values

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Regardless of any other affiliation, people of good will surely agree on one thing: Kindness transcends “difference.” Kindness demonstrates respect. Kindness shows consideration for others. In almost every circumstance I can imagine, kindness is akin to humility. At this time of year, carolers sing ‘tis the season to be jolly. But I posit ’tis always the season to be kind. … Read More

Straight From the Heart

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Relationships, Taking Risks, Values

As we approach a season mixed with gratitude, anticipation, joy, and reunion, we will invariably re-connect with people that we don’t see on a regular basis. For some, anxiety is palpable. For others, historic behaviors create tension. Conversation may be strained. All of us have gone through changes in the past year, and some still struggle with sadness and loss. … Read More

Leadership Memphis: Catalyst for Change

Shelley BaurDiversity & Inclusion, Integrity, Relationships

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Centuries before I met Dr. Bettye J. Alston in Leadership Memphis (class of ’91), Heraclitus is credited with saying, “The only thing constant is change.” Meeting Bettye Alston was life-changing…for all the years we knew one another. I am white, she was black. She was 12 years older than I was. She grew up in poverty, educated as a nurse, … Read More

Are You Sending Mixed Messages?

Shelley BaurCommunicating, Communication, Mixed Messages, Relationships

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Refusing to participate in sending “mixed messages” requires breaking the habit of “going along to get along.” On the subject of mixed messages, Mohandas Gandhi’s famous quote is: “A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” Choosing Honesty Over Mixed Messages My Mom was the unofficial social … Read More

Why Is LinkedIn So Important in Business?

Shelley BaurBusiness, Communicating, Influence, LinkedIn, Purpose, Relationships

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When I recently suggested that an executive client/friend of mine attend an upcoming LinkedIn seminar, noting that LinkedIn is now the #1 choice for connecting people in business, he scowled and said, “I’m not looking for a job!” LinkedIn is More Than a Job Search Tool Explaining that my friend’s employees were being vetted online before business prospects even accepted … Read More