Kindness Is Always in Season

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Integrity, Kindness, Relationships, Values

Shelley Baur Integrity-Based Communications Kindness in Season

Regardless of any other affiliation, people of good will surely agree on one thing: Kindness transcends “difference.” Kindness demonstrates respect. Kindness shows consideration for others. In almost every circumstance I can imagine, kindness is akin to humility. At this time of year, carolers sing ‘tis the season to be jolly. But I posit ’tis always the season to be kind. … Read More

Straight From the Heart

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Relationships, Taking Risks, Values

As we approach a season mixed with gratitude, anticipation, joy, and reunion, we will invariably re-connect with people that we don’t see on a regular basis. For some, anxiety is palpable. For others, historic behaviors create tension. Conversation may be strained. All of us have gone through changes in the past year, and some still struggle with sadness and loss. … Read More

Greatest Joys, Fears in Relationship

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Integrity, Living on Purpose, Values

IBC Shelley Baur blog fears relationship

Psychologists say that human are driven by two motivators: gaining pleasure and avoiding pain.  In my last article, we looked at identifying what you value most in a particular relationship – the things that we most want to be present in the relationship. Understanding Greatest Fears It’s just as informative to flip the coin and ask, “What do I most … Read More

Know How To Take Risks In Communicating?

Shelley BaurBehavior, Communicating, Integrity, Taking Risks

IBC Shelley Baur blog risks communicating

Having talked about the theory, method and behaviors of Integrity-Based Communications in a recent post, let’s apply the model specifically to various applications that require negotiating. As it relates to behavior I want others to demonstrate, first I must be willing to demonstrate that behavior personally. Including how to take risks, personally. How to Take Risks in Communicating For instance, … Read More